The easiest and fastest trick to survive the first month of new motherhood: Perfect for teen moms, first-time moms, and working-class moms.

Mother & Child

Congratulations! You endured nine months of pregnancy and hours of childbirth or surgery, not to mention the unpleasant hospitalization that immediately followed.

Those days before birth, they wake you up three times a night to check your blood pressure, but now you are home with your beautiful and precious newborn baby.

If you’re feeling a little lost, here are some tips for staying healthy and happy.


  1. Don’t expect perfection from yourself or the child.

The idea is to “roll with the rhythms”. Just go through this difficult adjustment period as best you can. If you can keep the baby nourished, put on clean diapers, and stay awake to medical supplies, you will feel great.

Don’t compare yourself to others. A mother can give birth to a baby and make it look easy, while another child cries a lot, has health issues, or has difficulty adjusting to motherhood.

In the end, both are mothers who try to give the best they can.

Don’t compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.

The first month is a big transition. Your body changes from birth, your hormones move in new directions, and you may experience social, emotional, and other changes in your new life.

2. “Make it easier for yourself by keeping supplies close to where they will be used, eg diapers, rash cream etc.”

If you are breastfeeding, place your most comfortable sofa in the nursery. Set up a table next to the chair for a bottle of water, your glasses, a clock, maybe music, and whatever else you might need regularly while breastfeeding.

If your partner breastfeeds the baby at night, it is a good idea to express breast milk or prepare a formula ahead of time.

In general, every time you make a “bottle” formula for your child, always try to make about 10 bottles. You can buy premixed formulas to make your job easier.

When you wake up in the middle of the night, you can be just as comfortable as possible.

Make it even easier for yourself by not getting up when your baby wakes you up.

You can have one of the new cribs that fit next to your bed and has one side that can dropdown. Simply reach forward, grab your baby, and breastfeed while lying on their side.

When you bottle-feed, keep everything you need to make formulas and just leave them grouped together on the counter. You are too tired to look for the cork of the bottle, etc. in drawers and closets in the middle of the night. Or, prepare bottles just before bedtime by taking a clean, empty, and dry bottle and drying formula.

Then put the cover back on and place it next to your nightstand or in the nursery with a few bottles of clear water – also pre-measured if you think you won’t get it in the middle of the night .Simply open the bottles and mix and feed. Take the empty bottles for washing in the morning.

Another option is to buy the formula ready to feed in a bottle to feed them at night. However, it can be costly.

It may also be helpful to purchase a small refrigerator to keep in your room with the bottles for feeding if the kitchen is far away.

You can have a perennial cut that you will need to be properly washed each time you visit the bathroom and that will require some material. There is also the possibility of hemorrhoids.

Make it easier on yourself by having all of these materials close to the toilet. It is important to take care of yourself.

Always ensure that the materials needed for such trips are close to you so you can get back to the baby. Great products to have on deck are preparation H, Tucks pads with hamamelis, Tylenol or Motrin. A spray bottle to gently cleanse and dilute the urine is helpful for this healing area.

3. Sleep when the baby is sleeping.

It is important to avoid sleep deprivation so that you can stay awake while you care for your baby. Know how much sleep you need each day and break it down, sleep when your baby is sleeping and sleep when your baby is napping – avoid the temptation of social media useage and emails, while the baby is sleeping. You need to rest when the baby is resting. Its very important.

While sleeping, lay the baby on their back and take the cradle with you without pillows, blankets or toys (a light blanket can be placed under the baby’s arms and easily hidden along the bottom half of the cradle). If you want to sleep together, learn how to do it safely.

Call your doctor or midwife if the baby seems to be sleeping excessively (the normal 16 hours a day) as this could indicate an infection.

 4. Make your schedule easier.

Some people think you should strive to have your child put on a routine training, and others think you should let a natural rhythm develop at its own pace.”

Either way, do what works best for you without weighing the baby down.

It takes some trial and error to find the right balance.

If you will be on break from work, it doesn’t matter when your baby is sleeping.

Sometimes it’s best to let them sleep when they’re ready and not force them when they’re not.

Try to keep things neat and keep your house very clean. It keeps your child from getting sick and makes you more comfortable if your home environment is always clean and tidy.

Help your child differentiate between day and night by playing during the day and keeping the room bright, avoiding loud music and having strong lights at night.

Change your child’s clothes on a consistent schedule so they know sweaters are for play and nightgowns are for bedtime.

If you bathe at night, your baby will also feel comfortable, warm and sleep longer.

5. Look for signs of postpartum blues, especially if you’ve had a medical, surgical, or assisted delivery.

Over 50% of women experience tears, fatigue, sadness, and difficulty thinking clearly on the third or fourth day after childbirth. This is most likely caused by a sudden drop in the mother’s hormones. Don’t ignore these symptoms and the feelings of sadness or guilt that result. Talk to a loved one about it and try not to pretend luck when you feel really bad.

Feel your feelings until the end! Part of this is going to be painful and that’s okay.

Not only are you adjusting to a fantastic life event, your body is releasing all the hormones a woman knows 24 hours a day.

It should go away in one to three weeks as the hormones get stabilized and you get used to the new situation. If necessary, consult a doctor.

6. Accept the help.

Hire a housekeeper, If you can afford it, even if only once every two weeks.It can help a lot.

Have a babysitter when you need a break. Consider starting a postpartum doula.

If your partner is willing, support what he or she is doing to help you.

Be prepared to allow your partner dress or wash the baby and take him/her for a walk or in the car.

A parent who knows he is been helped in their efforts to care for the child, are more likely to spend more time with the child. It’s probably a win-win situation for everyone involved.

Relax and let your partner run with it. Chances are they are just as good at changing diapers as you are! Sharing responsibilities is good. Discuss how they can help you if needed.

7. Carry the baby near you in a sling when you move around the house or when you go out.

Strollers are fun, but you may find it more comfortable to hold the baby directly on your chest, even when you are cooking.

Going outside can be very refreshing for you and your baby, and a baby carrier can make the move very easy and comfortable for both of you.

Having more contact with you will make your child calmer and happier, which is also beneficial for you.

8. It’s easier to follow a different diet.

If you’ve been through nine months pregnancy and have considered eating for two back then, don’t expect to immediately drop back to 1,400 calories per day except with the will of a professional bodybuilder.

It may take a week or two for your habits to change.

Plan to eat 3 healthy meals a day and allow yourself some flexibility with your snacks until your body meets your eating habits.

After your doctor or midwife has given you permission, start exercising again in small steps. If possible, go to a gym. Meeting the gym will not only get you out of the house, you’ll also be inspired to keep track of all pounds in sports bras and spandex.

Remember to drink plenty of water and take a good multivitamin every day.

9. Balance your social life.

Some mothers find time to recover from the baby while others still prefer to have the newborn with them. It is an individual choice. Whichever way, stay in touch with your support system, be it, the dad, family, or friends. Consider finding and contacting other new mothers.

Many places have mothers’ groups that meet regularly, and they can often be found with a little research on the Internet.

Limit the number of guests during this time if your child is prone to infectious diseases. Most people are more contagious before they show symptoms of the disease.

10. Know what to expect from the child.

Don’t be surprised if the baby loses a few grams of weight in the first few days after birth – it usually returns to that weight in seven to ten days.

Make sure baby feeds every one and half to two and half  hours, seems satisfied after feeding, sucks both breasts every time he feeds, 5-9 cloth diapers or 5 disposable diapers per day and 3 or more loose stools per day occur.

Call to choose a pediatrician and make an appointment to see your baby.

Have the baby examined by a competent doctor on the third or fourth day after birth (if the newborn comes out within 24 hours of giving birth) and two weeks after birth. Now is a good time to ask him questions.

Always remember and stay up to date with the records. Vaccinations, flu and others are important to get and for months to come. You can choose to decline or delay vaccinations.

Smaller babies, especially premature babies, are more vulnerable and lack the immune system of an infant or toddler. Spitting up is not uncommon and is not a cause for concern as long as the baby’s weight gain is on track.

The umbilical stump usually falls off in the second week; Until then, give newborns sponge baths instead of tubs, and fold the front of the diaper below the navel to keep the area clear and clean. If it is dirty, you can dab the stump with alcohol.

If the baby is circumcised, apply a little petroleum jelly to the circumcised area to prevent the diaper from sticking to it.

11. Before having sex again (only when you feel ready), make a contraception plan.

Do not have unprotected sex because it is possible to ovulate and even get pregnant a few weeks after giving birth.

It is recommended that you wait 6 weeks to become sexually active due to the healing time, injections, and the start of contraception.

If you want to rely on exclusive breastfeeding when planning your family, read and follow the guidelines.

12. Remember to appreciate this baby.

The first few days and weeks will be tough and you might be tempted to forget that you are in the middle of a miraculous and great time. So remember to enjoy the happy times of the day, even if you are tired and stressed at times.

Watch out every minute even if you wake up at two o’clock to feed the baby and look out the window and everything is dark except your house.

Those few months will pass quickly and believe it or not, you will miss it!

Comments (4)
March 1, 2021

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